Because He is your LORD [Scripture]

9Kings’ daughters are among Your noble ladies;
At Your right hand stands the queen in gold from Ophir.

10 Listen, O daughter, give attention and incline your ear:
Forget your people and your father’s house;
11 Then the King will desire your beauty.
Because He is your Lord, bow down to Him.
12 The daughter of Tyre will come with a gift;
The rich among the people will seek your favor.

13 The King’s daughter is all glorious within;
Her clothing is interwoven with gold.
14 She will be led to the King in embroidered work;
The virgins, her companions who follow her,
Will be brought to You.
15 They will be led forth with gladness and rejoicing;
They will enter into the King’s palace.

Sometimes we forget that we must forget ALL else for Christ, let go of our past life and step out for Christ.  Then He will exalt us.  

Joyful Mothering

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Have you heard that motherhood is one of the greatest gifts that you will ever experience?  It is so cliche, when you are pulling your hair out, crying your eyes out, or screaming your lungs out in frustration.  But oh the blessings!  While preaching on other topics my pastor occasionally uses the phrase, “Glorious Agony”Yep, that pretty much explains motherhood.

It is wonderful and wonderfully painful.  I will say parenthood is the most intense relationship a person can have.  Some parents say they disown their child, but I find that very hard to swallow.  I mean a complete denial and to go forward without missing, wondering, wanting your child?

Parenthood, specifically motherhood, is an ongoing deep relationship of love and irritation.

The child is so much like you, the good and the bad.  You battle yourself, you see how God’s been trying to get your attention by the way you try to redirect your own child.  You see the fun of life through your child and the struggles of life by seeing where you are now.  You put your hope into your child but desire for them to be their own person, not just better but different.  Motherhood is FULL of so much detail, like a beautiful wild rose, thorns and all.

Through your child’s play, you can play too.  You can let go, even for moments at a time and breathe life.  You can be fun!  You can bond with a human being so much like you, they once lived in you.  Even just watching your child play happily brings a sense of peace.  They, trusting you.  You, trusting Him.  He being in complete control.

He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me.

Having a joyful motherhood is about trusting God just like your child trusts you.  Even if it seems like your child doesn’t trust you, he does, silently.  He trusts you to have food at mealtimes, to come when he calls for you, to comfort him when he is hurting.  We too must trust God through this glorious agony, to know what to do for the next step.

Clutter, Mess and Mindset

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, the lovely lady over at Young Wife’s Guide wrote on this topic of Clutter in the home, a topic that I really appreciate and wanted to write on myself.Mom has a lot on her plate.  My tasklist for just one day can easily get up to 20 tasks.  There are so many things needed in running a household, it really is a world of its own.  Dishes, laundry, playing with the kids, sewing up that shirt, paying bills, stopping at the store, boxing up items or unboxing them, sending that note, setting up that appointment and on and on your list can go.  It is never-ending.  We MUST make ourselves satisfied there.  But your problems are compiled when you just can’t even think clearly about what to do first!  Your thoughts are jumbled, you energy is low and honestly you don’t care to try.  What’s going on?

One main issue that results in this emotional and physical feeling is clutter.

I know, it’s laughable!  But it is a serious issue.

Clutter in your home is clutter in your mind.  When I first became a mother (and what a blessing motherhood is!), I lived in an apartment.  When it was just my husband and I, order at times was challenging but manageable.  But after my son came along, with all the baby clothes, blankets, bouncers, etc. life became difficult in an apartment.  I found myself jamming things into closets, being frustrated with where to put things in the kitchen and paper was out of control.  Topple that with lack of money to buy all those great organizing store gadgets and I was miserable.

Does any of this sound familiar?  Piles of papers (paper is the worst), toys everywhere, and craft projects – where does it go?  If you don’t know, after a while these things start to clutter up your thinking.  Inside of putting it away it’s always out, in your view, and somewhere in the back of your mind you are considering it.  This is brain-drain, a stresser and it is a medical fact that stress affects the physical body.  And there you have it.  But the mess in your house isn’t just “messing” with you, but your family and anyone that comes through that door.

Your Gospel witness is at the core of how you manage your home.  We can’t do it on our own – everything by prayer, seeking God’s strength in the process.

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13

We must seek Him in our whys, whens and hows.  Remembering that the goal isn’t to get our homes flawless.  Our goals is to glorify God in the way we manage our home, to have a welcoming and calming atmosphere for those who come to our home, and to be able to serve the Lord with clear thinking.

So here are 3 practically things to help you on your road to less mess, better mindset:

1. Go around your house (or apartment) and in each room list what’s wrong with the stuff in the room.  A pile of papers, clothes that is continually on the chair, books that don’t get back on the shelf.  This step may take a few weeks – it’s not a fast process, esp. if there are a lot of problems.

2. Think through your list, what can I do to solve this problem.  Remember everything (EVERYTHING) needs to have a home.  Maybe the solution (like having another shelf) is out of reach.  That’s ok, still list it and list others.  If you can’t think, take your list to a good friend or mentor and ask them to give solutions.  If necessary, use organizational shows or even Pinterest – just stay focused on what your goal is, a solution in order to bring glory to God.

3. Do it.  When you have your solution (maybe you just need to scale down how much clothes you own or buy a dollar store filing bin or just scan it all into Evernote but whatever the solution is), enact it, don’t stop at skimming pinterest for cool ideas.  It’s not going to end your stress and enable you to do those other things you like until your home is less cluttered, so don’t just think or plan but do it.

You may need some help in accomplishing your plan.  Don’t give up, read Top 2 Alternative Ways of Getting Things Done

10 MORE Scriptures of Encouragement to Brighten Your Day

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So I thought it would be a good idea to post more scriptures that may be an encouragement to your soul.  Being mom is a difficult feat and requires everything we got.  Nothing we have is as powerful as God’s very Words!

 

1 Peter 5:7

casting all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.

 

Nahum 1:7

The Lord is good,
A stronghold in the day of trouble,
And He knows those who take refuge in Him.

 

Isaiah 26:3

“The steadfast of mind You will keep in perfect peace,
Because he trusts in You.

 

Deuteronomy 31:6

Be strong and courageous, do not be afraid or tremble at them, for the Lord your God is the one who goes with you. He will not fail you or forsake you.”

 

Zephaniah 3:17

“The Lord your God is in your midst,
A victorious warrior.
He will exult over you with joy,
He will be quiet in His love,
He will rejoice over you with shouts of joy.

 

1 Corinthians 10:13

No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.

 

2 Corinthians 4:16-18

 Therefore we do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being renewed day by day. 17 For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison, 18 while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.

 

Deuteronomy 31:8

The Lord is the one who goes ahead of you; He will be with you. He will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed.”

 

Psalm 9:9

The Lord also will be a stronghold for the oppressed,
A stronghold in times of trouble;

 

Psalm 23:4

Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I fear no evil, for You are with me;
Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.

 

These and many others have been comforting to me.  Trusting the Lord with all our hearts will lead us to be more confident in Him and able to submit to His guidance when the enemy is prowling.  Have an encouraged day!

No skillz: Newly Married and Unprepared

Family values dropped after the ’60s which lead to mothers being more concerned about career, community and taking cruises than the state of their own homes or training their own children.  Now their daughters and granddaughters are grown and oblivious to the demands of wife and mom. 

So you get married in dreamland until you realize the care of the home is all yours.  You have to know a bit more than when to add the butter to the boxed Mac Cheese.  Plus, how do you know…

  • what to serve guests (or maybe it’s how to cook, period)
  • what type of coats, curtains, carpeting, etc. to buy
  • how to sew on a knee patch
  • where to find a doctor
  • how to save money or make food stretch

Now you just plain feel lost – not only that, but you are!  So you stumble around wearing a bra that doesn’t fit right because your size changed and you keep buying the wrong size.  It could be that you lost your mom, you never knew your mom or you are estranged from your mother. Perhaps you hold a decent relationship with your mother but she just hasn’t taken the time to tell you the details of how to live life.  You are left with no idea where to start.

START HERE

Don’t you love when you are looking at a map, puzzle or diagram and in ALL CAPS it says “START HERE”?  You instantly know which way to go.  What a relief.  God doesn’t leave us in the dark.  Since we are first His child, His maidservant, this is where we look first.

He says

I will instruct you and teach you in the way which you should go; I will counsel you with My eye upon you.  Psalm 32:8

Review Scriptures of how God stays with us (a few more are Psalm 25:12-14 and Psalm 28:7). I’ve found the Psalms perfect for affirming God’s presence in our lives, guiding, caring and carrying us through.   Once you have studied and prayed for God’s help, where do we actually start?

Well let’s review your second primary role, as wife:

In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.  1 Peter 3:1-6

Okay, so you are working on the basics.  Obviously, that’s an outgoing discipline.  So what’s next?

Titus 2:5 says women should be: sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.

Proverbs 31: 14-22 gives more in-depth view of the work part.  This is where most of us get lost. The map isn’t clear HOW to go about doing this.  I think that’s where we really need the guidance of an older woman talked about in Titus chapter 2.

A few practical steps to take in learning the skills of womanhood:

Research – Get every book you can on being a godly wife and a godly woman.  Two I’d highly recommend is Lies Women Believe and Lies Young Women Believe.

AskAsk godly older women if you could spend time with them in order to learn more.  Or just ask them specific questions as they come up.

Get into a group – Online or offline to find out for tips and info.  This would also include taking a class.

Observe – This kinda overlaps the step of asking.  In addition to watching older women you can also watch younger women who are doing things right.  I watch a lot of Youtube videos on things of the home, cooking and so forth.  You can find my playlists here.  There is one specific list for things I think would be helpful for Maidservants.

If all else fails, pray.  The Lord wants us to lean on Him and give our burdens to Him.  Don’t expect an overnight transformation, learning any skill takes time.

Weeping may last for the night, but a shout of joy comes in the morning.  Psalm 30:5